Why Do I Have to Share my Stuff?

Before we begin, I realized our last post didn't send because Jen didn't finish the process (oh, technology) with MailChimp. So, you didn't get the short video we shared about why we need cheerleaders in our marriage (this is what you think about when you're running a half-marathon) on Sunday. We'd love for you to watch it! You can watch it here.

Now, here's Craig on community:

As Christians, we are called to live in community.  One has to look no further than the Trinity to see this; God living in perfect community as the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. God designed and created us in His image and as a result, we have that same desire to live in relationship.  So what happened?  Well, in a word, sin. 

Once sin entered into the picture, we began to look to ourselves instead of others.  How many of you are more willing to read a blog (not this one of course) or watch a video about how to solve a problem rather than ask someone else’s help?  Don’t worry.  I get it.  The Internet makes it easy to self-service. 

Need an answer to a question? Google it. 

Need to learn how to change a flat tire?  YouTube it. 

Want to learn how to better your sex life?  There’s a blog for that! 

I find it interesting that the medium that was built upon the principles of sharing ideas and building community seems to have the opposite effect on some of us.

Confession time:  I used to be king of self-service.  I grew up learning how to be self-reliant and self-sufficient.  When I was in high school, I even considered joining a monastery.  Lucky for me (and Jen), God had other plans.  (And yes, I’m aware that monastery’s are communities. Just go with it.) The point here is that I didn’t want to rely on anyone. I didn’t want to appear needy, weak, or incapable. 

However, that is exactly what I am.  It’s taken me many years to realize it.  Thank God He did not give up on me, frankly, because living apart from community can really suck. Who wants to be alone when they're needy, weak, and incapable?

A couple of years ago, I was introduced to a community of godly men with whom I have bonded over many campfires, stories of triumph, tales of defeat, supplications of prayer, and more than a few rations of whiskey.  God has used this group of men, my Brohaimish (don't Google that—it's a made up name), to lift me up.  He has spoken to me through their words of encouragement, tears of compassion, and rounds of belly-splitting laughter.  I’m a changed man because of them.  I’m a better man because of them.  They have taught me the value of community and how God uses community to draw us closer to Him.  

So, now what?

Well, here at The {K}not Project, we are trying to use this powerful medium known as the Internet to build a community.  We want to provide a space where people who want stronger marriages and deeper relationships can come together to support and nurture one another.  Why? Because our marriage has been hard, but we survive and thrive because we have found that healthy community has a profound impact on the health of our marriage.

All you need to do is show up.  Sounds easy, huh?  Well, it is.  As Woody Allen once famously put it, “Showing up is 80 percent of life.”  Once you’re here, we would love for you to engage with us and with each other.  After all, a community is built on communication.  Read the blog, read the comments, post some of your own!  Engage with others in conversation.  Pray for one another.  Ask for prayer.  Lift one another up in holy love and compassion.  Our hope is that together we can invite the Kingdom of God back into our marriages, our families, and our lives.  We want God to transform us and equip us for His service in His Kingdom and help us to share His love, grace and mercy with others.  The time is now and the place is right here.