10 Ways Porn Destroys a Person (& Jen's new writing gig)

So...I (Jen) got a new writing gig. And of course, the first post is about porn. 

It's a long story, but I got a nickname a few years ago—Patty Porn. And for a while, before we published the book, I was afraid that I would be known simply as "The Girl Who Writes about Porn." 

But the truth is, I'm okay with all that. We don't always get to choose our mission field, but we do have the choice whether to embrace it or not.

This is me. Embracing.

I know this is not a website or a blog solely devoted to porn, but if you look at the stats, you or someone you know WILL be affected by its reach. It's important we're armed with information, that we understand the truth behind the addiction, and we're able to help people with love, and grace and compassion. 

 Image Credit: Thinkstock.com

Image Credit: Thinkstock.com

Here's a little start:

"Though you may find conflicting research regarding the harm of pornography, I can tell you from first-hand experience it has the power to ruin your life. From middle school and into his married years, my husband consumed porn. Over time, it changed how he viewed himself, the world, our marriage, and me. It threatened to take over more and more aspects of his life until he finally admitted something had to change. He realized that what he was trading in exchange for porn was too valuable.

You may think you have the power to restrain porn’s impact on you, but my husband thought the same thing as well. Porn has the power to destroy anyone, often growing insidiously, until one day you realize your whole life has changed for the worst.

1. Porn destroys your ability to view people as human beings. 

The basic premise is this: You’re using the actions of people on a screen to fulfill your own personal desires. You don’t stop to think that these people may be victims of sex trafficking. You don’t know if their producer allows them to use condoms. You don’t know if they are making a living wage or if they’re sharing STDs. You don’t know if they’re doing drugs to get through a scene or if they are comfortable with the acts they are expected to perform. The people on the screen become almost non-human, simple tools for you to use when you need them.

2. Porn destroys your ability to develop intimacy. 

Why risk entering into a real relationship when you can get your needs met with a hand and a computer screen? Who needs the drama of having to love sacrificially or opening yourself to being vulnerable with an actual person? Or, when things get hard in the relationship you already have and your partner’s not wanting to be physically intimate, why press through to the other side for resolution of the emotional issues that concern your spouse when you can get your physical needs on your own? Intimacy is built with trust, love, and grace. It grows by overcoming hard things together and assuring each other by your actions that you’re fully committed. Porn divides the heart and your affections. You can’t create intimacy when you’re running in the opposite direction of your partner.

Click over here to iBelieve to read about other 8 ways porn brings destruction.