Hi friends! My name is Abby and I’m the oldest daughter of Jen and Craig. I am so excited to be writing for all of y’all today. This week, I was just laying in bed when God talked to me about my parents. He gave me some questions to think about. But here was the big one:
How does my parents’ marriage affect me and my sister?
You might think that your marriage affects only you and your spouse. If you think that, you’re wrong. If you don’t have children, there are other areas where your marriage can affect the people around you, but that’s for another week.
Kids see and hear a lot more then you may think. If you’re showcasing a positive and healthy relationship when you know you’re around your kids, you think that they have the perfect vision of what married life may be like. What you don’t know, though, is that we kids are way more observant than you may think. You may be having a fight with your spouse, maybe even just with your body movement or facial expressions, and your kids can sense the tension.
It’s very important for you to explain to your kids that married life isn’t perfect and that you both make mistakes, but you’ll always love each other no matter the differences or disagreements you may have with each other. This really helped me when my parents talked to me and my sister about this topic. Kids have the wildest imaginations so you should really sit down and tell your kids what’s going on.
You may have read this and thought, “What does a thirteen y/o know about marriage and why is she giving me advice?” Well in Malachi 2:15, it says, “Did he not make them one, with a portion of the Spirit in their union? And what was the one God seeking? Godly offspring. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and let none of you be faithless to the wife of your youth.”
By guarding yourself, your spouse, and your youth (children), you are helping them know what is true in marriage and what is not. You are helping them understand that nobody is perfect, especially in marriage.
Thank y’all so much for taking the time to read this and I hope this was helpful and fruitful!
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For Tweens & Teens
The other morning, Abby stood over me while I was writing in my Bible. "How do you have so much to write about in there? What's with all the underlining?? Can you help me learn to read scripture like that?"
So, I came up with 6 questions she could use to help her study God's Word. She found a spiral notebook, put these questions in the front, and chose a passage of Scripture to read. Below you will find a printable (just right click to download) you can give to a tween or teen you love AND one of Abby's journal entries.