Life is Better Together

Life is Better Together

Craig and I have witnessed first hand the power of community where honesty, authenticity, and vulnerability are welcomed. See, community isn’t a place to try to prove that you’re worthy. You already are. Community isn’t a place to try to convince other people you’re okay. Community is a place where not being okay is okay. I’ve heard people ask if it’s was a good idea to join a couples community group even if their marriage was in a hard place. They feared they would be the only one that was struggling. But community is where this quote by C.S. Lewis has the chance to spring to life:

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How Hope Fuels the Best a Man Can Get

How Hope Fuels the Best a Man Can Get

Recently, I was thinking about my word for this year, hope, in the context of the recent controversy around the newest Gillette campaign.  If you haven’t seen it, you can view it here. There are many different view points around the message— some for and some against it.  Those who have voiced their opinions talk about what they have seen in the message.  I’ve watched the commercial multiple times. Here are two things I see:

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Happy Advent!

Craig and I both grew up in a liturgical church, but after being on social media the past few years, we have realized that not every denomination celebrates the season of the Church. If you are unfamiliar with Advent, it's simply the Church season in which we prepare our hearts for the birth of Jesus.

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The season of Advent can be filled with intention. Often, I feel the temptation to rush through all the obligatory aspects of the season, but I have begun, also, to recognize the opportunity to savor, to slow, and to steep in the knowledge that this which we celebrate changed the world, changed us, changed me, forever.

One of the greatest things Jesus has taught us is the necessity of prayer. It is our lifeline, the main source of our connection to God. In our marriage, prayer has moved mountains, helping us to overcome we thought were impossible. If you or someone you know also has an impossibly immovable mountain in his/her life, I invite you to bless them with the gift of prayer. And, if you need a little guidance, we have just the tool for you.

Each deck comes with 52 prayer cards, each with a different theme, Scripture verse, prayer points, and action items designed to build intimacy in marriages. 

Each year since we created them, we have run a sale on our Marriage Matters prayer cards. Beginning today, December 2, you can take advantage of our sale thru December 24 (though stock is limited). Enter the coupon code ADVENT20 at checkout to save 20% on your order. Click here to purchase.


Marriage and Community: Shouldn't this be Private? (new video)

Marriage and Community: Shouldn't this be Private? (new video)

It's kind of like the R.E.M. song, "Everybody Hurts...Sometimes," except this one would be called, "Everybody Needs Help...Sometimes." 

We need help. 

And this video is just an honest reflection of that. We're talking about 3 different types of help that married couples might need when they are going through hard times. Right now, we don't need meals and we don't need professional counseling, but we do need encouragement because this journey through grief is hard. It weighs us down and some days, we feel like it's a fight for every step, for every positive engagement, for every smile. The things that were easy and mundane now seem to take effort. And it's not all doom and gloom, for sure. But when the waves come, boy, do they come.

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On Being a Rescuer

On Being a Rescuer

Today, my Facebook feed has been filled with images of ordinary people using ordinary boats to save ordinary people in an extraordinary situation. The catastrophe named Harvey has wrecked Houston and surrounding areas in the most unbelievable way. My father-in-law has been stuck in the hospital where he works as a chaplain (hopefully he's being rescued as I type), some of my friends have been evacuated, and I frequently check on my other friends to see if they've survived another night in a flood-threatening situation.

It's all terrible. 

But the rescuers. Praise God both for the people in uniform and the plain-clothes who are continually risking their lives to save people in danger of drowning and dying and despairing.

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Get on the Roof (new video)

We sat in church on Sunday and prayed for all those who were being terribly impacted by Hurricane Harvey. The sermon happened to be on community and how we must be willing to admit that we don't have it all together. We thought about water rescues in Houston and the emotional/spiritual rescue that we all need from time to time. 

Here's the call: Do you need to get on the roof?

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Marriage Takes Grit

Marriage Takes Grit

Maybe your marriage is looking like the Patriots in the 3rd Quarter of Super Bowl LI?  Whether not you love or hate Tom Brady and the Patriots, you have to admit they showed grit.  In the face of overwhelming odds and a desperate situation, they relied on each other, dug in their heels and fought like hell.  God’s call to us is the same.  Fight for one another.  Fight for your marriage. It takes grit. You're going to get dirty. It's going to take every ounce of strength you have...and then a whole bunch more from God and the people around you.

Be tenacious. Don't give up. Rally.

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5 Tips for Finding Marriage Community (because suffering in silence is never fun)

5 Tips for Finding Marriage Community (because suffering in silence is never fun)

Guess what—things in your marriage are going to happen that are BURDENSOME. They are simply too heavy for you to carry on your shoulders alone. You aren't born with all the relational tools you'll ever need and the wisdom from other couple's around you is invaluable. Will they always have it together? Will they always have the right answer? Of course not. But part of community is simply empathizing and encouraging each other that marriage is worth fighting for.

Here are 5 tips for finding community for your marriage:

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Why Do I Have to Share my Stuff?

Why Do I Have to Share my Stuff?

How many of you are more willing to read a blog (not this one of course) or watch a video about how to solve a problem rather than ask someone else’s help?  Don’t worry.  I get it.  The Internet makes it easy to self-service.  

Need an answer to a question? Google it.  

Need to learn how to change a flat tire?  YouTube it.  

Want to learn how to better your sex life?  There’s a blog for that!  

I find it interesting that the medium that was built upon the principles of sharing ideas and building community seems to have the opposite effect on some of us.

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