I've always been on the serious side. I've valued deep conversations, explorations of the soul, going to the hard places. This is what I thought made up a good, solid, real relationship. This was so important to me that I thought every time we had date night or a quiet, intimate moment alone that we had to have this kind of talk. And if we didn't, something was wrong or missing or disconnected. And if we were just silent? Silence was a killer. Silence (because of how I grew up) meant that we were angry and harboring resentment or that we had grown apart and had nothing to talk about.
You see now why I needed an entire year to just practice having FUN!? I went into marriage knowing it was going to take grit. What I didn't know was how fun would make the grit so much easier to put forth.
A focus on fun changed my life and my marriage in key ways. Here's what I learned:Read More