This month we are talking about connection. As we have mentioned before, relationships are the foundation of our faith. We first must have a whole-hearted relationship with God (vertical) in order to have a whole-hearted relationship with others (horizontal). This month, I’d like to introduce a very visual tool that Jen and I have used for the past year or so. It is a version of the Styles of Relating first constructed by Karen Horney back in the 1940’s. They have been used in counseling and therapy ever since. I find them extremely useful to help understand how we interact with one another.
I’d like to start with defining them a bit and then exploring how you can use them to deep your connection with others and strengthen your relationships. Each one of the three can be expressed in a positive (true-self) way and a negative (false-self) way.Read More