Why the Church Must Be a No-Shame Zone

Why the Church Must Be a No-Shame Zone

This week, we're talking about being spontaneous, and yet, here is a post about the Church and porn. Well, that's spontaneous, right? I never know when my posts for Covenant Eyes will go live and I don't always share them here, but this is a post that Craig and I both feel so passionate about—Satan uses shame in incredibly powerful ways and it is time for the Church to fight against these schemes.

Church, rise up. RISE UP.

The sins we commit in the dark, in the secret places, those are the ones Satan hones in on, where he continually speaks lies under the heavy cloak, in the deep recesses of our hearts where we shut out Light. Where can we take these sins? To Jesus, for sure. But where do we find the community that helps us in the recovery of these sins?

If the Church is just another space that heaps more shame, the Church then becomes another tool of the enemy.

This cannot be so.

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30 Days of Kindness Challenge: Not Always Easy, but Always Worth It

Sometimes it’s the dirty little things.  You know, like taking out the trash.  As I drove up the driveway, I saw that Jen had already moved the trash out to the curb.  To give you a little background, taking out the trash is my job and she did it for me. Maybe it was because I had been sick all week.  Maybe she felt like surprising me.  Honestly, it didn’t matter why she did it.  Jen made me smile.  It was a completely unexpected, unrequested act of kindness from Jen.

Here at The {K}not Project, we’re getting to the end of the Kindness Challenge.  It’s been a “challenge” to keep up with, that’s for sure, which is a strange thing to admit.  It should be easy, really second nature, to be kind to those we love, but as I’ve begun to discover, that is not the case. Why?

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Grace or Karma: New Series!

Welcome to our new series! We hope you'll take a minute to watch our less than 7 minute video and ask yourself this question: Do you operate on the concept of karma or grace in your marriage?

It's much easier for us to operate out of the idea of karma (you get what you deserve) instead of grace in our marriage. We want to reward when rewards are earned and punish/withhold when it our spouse messes up or hurts us (think silent treatment, passive aggressive behavior, yelling, etc). But is this really how God calls us to treat each other? Is this how He treats us? Join us for a new series, Grace or Karma, as we take common trials that married people go through and share our tips on how to approach these things (and our spouses) with grace and love.

Here are some of the Scripture/book references in the video in case you want to study more on your own:

Does grace mean we get to keep on sinning? No, see Romans 6.

Where is the story of the Prodigal Son? See Luke 15:11-32

How did Jesus demonstrate grace to us? See Romans 5:1-11

What's that marriage book you were talking about? The Meaning of Marriage by Timothy and  Kathy Keller. Find it here.

What's that book you wrote about your journey through porn addiction? Pure Eyes, Clean Heart: A Couple's Journey to freedom from Pornography. Find it here or you can buy it from our store here.

Can't wait to see you back here next week!