And finally...a VLOG!

And finally...a VLOG!

Man, what a summer! Feels like "the best of times and the worst of times" kind of break. Some really great things (a new puppy! a new job!) and some really hard things (chronic illness! hospital stays! death anniversaries!) happened and it has taken us a bit of time and effort to regroup.

But we're back and ready to reset and refocus on all God has for us in our marriage. What about you? How has your summer been? Good, bad, in between? Regardless, the beginning of the school year always feels like a time to refresh and reorient (I think it's all the new school supplies)! We're not talking about a whole redo, but just choosing one thing we can change, tweak, or add to allow our marriage to really come alive.

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The Importance of Play in Marriage

The Importance of Play in Marriage

This is a piece of metal that my mother-in-law used when she wore her scarves. 

It's mine now. 

The reason it is sacred to me is not because I've been in desperate need of what my father-in-law calls a "scarver." It's because when he was going through her things, he immediately thought of me. 

One time years ago, he and I were in an intense Scrabble battle (the real one, with the board and wooden tiles). He played the word "scarve" and convinced me that it was a verb - like when you "scarve" someone (i.e. put a scarf around the neck). He was so convincing (and a priest!), so I didn't challenge. 

I should have.

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Video Games Don't Yield Real Treasure

Video Games Don't Yield Real Treasure

I can tell you that I have spent a lot of time over the years doing hobby or leisure type activities.  Besides my addiction to porn, I’ve logged hundreds of hours playing video games.  I’m sure I’ve spent even more time binge watching shows and movies. 

But, what do I have to show for it?  Has it changed me for the better?  Has it deepened my relationship with God and others?  If I am truly honest about it, the time was spent simply to satisfy myself.  These were all self-medicating distractions to keep my mind off of what was really going on in my life.  Instead of seeking God and His presence, I chose to isolate and sequester myself in a fantasy world.  Now, I want more and these hobbies and distractions are not fulfilling me.

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