Life is Better Together

Life is Better Together

Craig and I have witnessed first hand the power of community where honesty, authenticity, and vulnerability are welcomed. See, community isn’t a place to try to prove that you’re worthy. You already are. Community isn’t a place to try to convince other people you’re okay. Community is a place where not being okay is okay. I’ve heard people ask if it’s was a good idea to join a couples community group even if their marriage was in a hard place. They feared they would be the only one that was struggling. But community is where this quote by C.S. Lewis has the chance to spring to life:

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Get on the Roof (new video)

We sat in church on Sunday and prayed for all those who were being terribly impacted by Hurricane Harvey. The sermon happened to be on community and how we must be willing to admit that we don't have it all together. We thought about water rescues in Houston and the emotional/spiritual rescue that we all need from time to time. 

Here's the call: Do you need to get on the roof?

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Give Grace: Unrealistic Expectations

Give Grace: Unrealistic Expectations

Right away you'll probably notice we are not on the video today! Let us introduce to you our friends, Katie and Adam Reid. Jen met Katie in Michigan and we've never laid eyes on Adam in real life, but as you'll see in the video, turns out, he's a pretty good guy (even if he didn't get Katie a birthday present). They are here with a  very timely video that is so appropriate for Valentine's Day week: Unrealistic Expectations! (The video cut off their goodbye, but don't worry—all the good stuff is here.)

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Why Do I Have to Share my Stuff?

Why Do I Have to Share my Stuff?

How many of you are more willing to read a blog (not this one of course) or watch a video about how to solve a problem rather than ask someone else’s help?  Don’t worry.  I get it.  The Internet makes it easy to self-service.  

Need an answer to a question? Google it.  

Need to learn how to change a flat tire?  YouTube it.  

Want to learn how to better your sex life?  There’s a blog for that!  

I find it interesting that the medium that was built upon the principles of sharing ideas and building community seems to have the opposite effect on some of us.

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Free with me?

Free with me?

"Free" is my word for the year. Craig was the one who thought of it, probably because he notices on a continual basis how enslaved I am. I rarely I notice the chains. I don't even picture them as chains—more like I'm a magnet and I allow burdens to become a part of daily living and breathing and moving. The problem is, when you've attracted all this weight, moving becomes heavy and breathing, ragged.

I want to be very clear: I love helping people. I love listening to people. It's an honor to be invited to share burdens, to be privy to vulnerability. But where I get muddy is I allow their problems to become my problems. When my thoughts wander, I find myself tangled in their possible solutions. I drown in their sorrow. I lament continually to God. I lose where I end and they begin. There's no clearly defined raindrop—just a puddle

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